The option is yours and yours alone, no-one can make that choice for you. Love is often where we find it. But when you don’t take the responsibilities of your partner then neither you will soon be respected by your partner or your relationship may last. Often you may enjoy the position of the victim by providing and never getting equally in exchange, or you might accept the opposing position of the abuser, where you continually take without ever being satisfied. Love could be healing in lots of conditions because it is so strongly associated with laughter and cheerfulness.